To my mind, Adulthood is portrayed as a series of events which signifies the following:

• Settling Down
• Getting on with my Career
• Moving to a Bigger Home

Well I think I blown that one right out of the water!!!

Hopefully as the Sections in this Page are written what will unfold will be a Story of my attempts to do something about my Past, Present & Future. I have chosen a path that will change my Life dramatically and will provide me with the chance to be more of the person I wanted to be - if I survive long enough that is - if I don't - at least there will a Record of my efforts & intent - may be others may glean something of use from the Failures & Successes (more of the latter than the former I hope ;-)

I certainly don't feel like I'm Older & Wiser, some of the thoughts & feelings I've had definitely haven't changed since my Childhood. There are still Questions Unanswered, I have decided to try and answer them in the belief that I can change those things about myself that need to be changed.

This Page will be a Chronicle to my Efforts to define myself in my Own Terms. I hope you will see some Evidence of this as the years progress, I know I certainly hope to. So off I go & face Maturity with the same level of Confusion & Mis - Matched Logic that interfered with the previous 3 dozen or so years...

So let's get this show on the road...

Updated MAY 04: Aged 40

So where am I at now? And what are my Plans?

Here are the main points of the last few years, if you would like any further details (be prepared to be a little shocked and surprised) then you can contact me via Email

I'm now single again. I visit my Daughter as often as possible and, on the whole, things are amicable between her Mum and Myself. Not all plain sailing and a situation not to be taken for granted; though a lot better than most others I've seen.

TOM, MY FATHER, DIED ON TUESDAY 23 JULY 02 Still coming to terms with this and the impact it has had on all of us. The world feels an emptier place that's for sure, and he is deeply missed.

For various reasons, Personal and Professional, I decided to leave my job and try something less stressful instead, APR 03. I realised I needed to 'sort myself out' a bit, leading to the conclusion that some 'me' time was in order.

Got a new job in JUN 03 which has gone someway to helping me shake off some of the stresses of the past. I've gone from a predominantly female environment to a male one. Very interesting, not entirely what I expected though not far off either ;-)

Quit Smoking on my 40th Birthday, JAN 04, as I wanted to do something a bit 'profound' and significant for myself. A most interesting and unusual experience after more than a Quarter of a Century of Nicotine Consumption. Will keep you posted on this one...

After 11 months I'm about to move to another new job, MAY 04; went for the interview in JAN 03 (I kid you not) and things are now in place for me to start. This one is a little more 'technical' than the previous so will my mind a bit more to do.

Looking Ahead...

Eventually this Section will hopefully cover 49 - 60 years - still have difficulty imaging that far ahead! So I will use this bit to try and forecast where I would like to be, physically as well as mentally.

The obvious bit relates to the Previous Sections. I hope that I will continue the 'healing process' & move on with my life. I am in a position where I can take some time and decide where I want my life to go. I will do my best to be a decent Father to my Daughter Liana & things are looking promising that Fin and I will remain amicable and positive.

The bass playing will continue and I will have to get back into jamming again, I always miss it when I'm not. The creative urge never abates and is like a voice calling me from a distance (or maybe I just like making a noise ;-) Or BOTH ;-) ;-)

So by the time I get to this Section I will have a lot more (new) things to say rather than reporting much of the same. This is at least how I think Life should be in some respects - a journey of changes rather than one full of repeats. Well here's hoping...

I'm not even sure what I can put here yet, so, for the moment, I wont try...

The Next Page (And Some More?? ) is only partly ready

It should be far more interesting from an outside observers point of view, honest!

It is the chance for Others & YOU to have a say about me!

It has a list of words that have been used to d_scribe me

Brief sentences from those that have know me well

(if I can actually persuade anyone to do it!)

Finally, some feedback about this Web Site

(if anyone gets around to telling me ;-)